Well, this is my second column and I've gotten lots of e-mails. Some of which have been the non-serious question type. Please don't waste your time and mine by doing this. I'm really just trying to help those of you which are serious about wanting it. Another helpful things is mentioning whether you are female or male and your age could help but isn't required. Also, this will have to be my column for this week and next week. I'm going on a trip and I'll be gone for all of next week. Don't worry, I'll be back the next week. So I'm going to answer more questions this week to make up for the one I'm going to miss. Sorry everyone!

Q: I am seriously into biting, scratching and other variations of pleasurable pain in the sexual arena. My only problem is that although I find a lot of women do like this sort thing, they don't like it to the point that I do which is that I enjoy being scratched to the point of bleeding. Tie me up and then tear the flesh from my back and you will own me for life. That doesn't always go over so well. Any advice as to how I let a chick know what I dig without totally freaking her out and sending her running for the hills?

A: Sounds like we have a masochist on our hands. And I will be frank with you here. A lot of girls aren't into this sort of thing that is mostly referred to as S&M: Sado-Masochism. If you are the one who enjoys the pain, I suggest you find a girl who enjoys giving pain. Blood will scare away a lot of people when it comes to sex. Biting, however, is much more common. Try nibbling on your partner and see if they nibble back. If they do, use body language or sound effects to show them that you especially enjoyed that. But if you enjoy an even exchange of pain, then you will need to find someone who also enjoys pain equally. If you are trying to tell this to the person that you're already with, be gentle. Let them know that this turns you on. Maybe start small and work your way towards what your ideal situation would be.


Q: I'm a freshman, and a senior that is in a few of my classes has recently started paying attention to me. He says he doesn't want to go out, but he's ok with messing around. I'm a virgin, but I want to have sex with him. I know that he's really sweet and he would take it slow with me, but I don't know if this is really a good choice. I just want to know if I should go ahead and have sex, or if I should wait until I'm really in love. Is sex worth the wait??

A: I'm going to tell you this only because of my own opinion. WAIT!!! Sex is definitely worth the in my opinion. Not that you have to, but I think it would be worth it to you. Unless you want meaningless sex. Which is what he told you he wanted, correct? Maybe you should ask him why it is that he doesn't want to go out with you. Some people regard sex as something that doesn't mean anything these days. We see sex everywhere, TV, radios, movies, ads, etc. Hell, people have sex in public these days. You can pay for it and you can buy a personal sex slave. (which isn't necessarily a bad thing) We have become much more open to talking about sex and our views on sex have changed as well. If you are one of the people who think of sex as something that you should only share with someone you love, then by all means wait. But only you can make this decision. You have all your life to live, be young have fun and that doesn't always mean having sex.


Q: Dominique (any relation to Dominatrix??)
How is it that you are so wise in the ways of sexual orientation?

A: To answer that first question... yes, much relation. It's why I chose the name. But I didn't want it to be too forward. As for your second question, sexual orientation??? Sure I know lots about bis, gays and heterosexuals. I don't remember saying I did, though. I'm probably not answering what you really want me to answer, but I did answer your question as you wrote it.


Q: I "out last" my boyfriend when it comes to sex. He feels like he doesn't satisfy me when he really does. I'm used to going for an hour or more and so is he (with ex-girlfriends). How can I make him last longer or am I just being picky?

A: If he really does satisfy you, what's wrong? So you want him to last longer? See my first column.


Q: Hey chick. I have one for you. I have this problem with needing sex all the time. I am not sexually active now and I am not in to all that vibrator shit. I would like to know what I can do to keep my "sexual frustration" under control?

A: One way is to get a really time consuming hobby. Getting a job helps and if you already have one, work more. If none of this works for you, go find a nymphomaniac significant other. Best thing to do is to find something to occupy your time with. Anything will do, photography, sewing, cooking, welding, painting, roofing houses, etc. And who knows, doing one or more of these might lead you to your nymphomaniac!


Q: I was wondering, one of my female friends told me to put a personal ad in our local kick ass paper. The Pitch Weekly (a blatant plug). But anyway, my guy friends think that is so weak. I like to think of my self as a nice guy and all but isn't the papers full of nice guys? So should I even bother with this considering I haven't the time too spend at the bar all weekend.

A: Please see our non-sex related advice columnist, Smjor.


I'd just like to add one last comment.


"let's have a little challange? u foward me all the questions that have been asked from now on and we'll see who can answer them better, i have seruious doubts in your knowledge,,,,,,,,,i will just e mail them back to u and maybe then u can use them...........dont keep me waiting for long....just yes or no."

Well, I have serious doubts in your grammar and spelling. Part of being a writer is being able to form correct sentences and being able to spell helps too. I count 7 spelling errors over 10 grammar errors. Anyway, anyone else agree? Please send me e-mails on your opinion.


Thanks for all the great questions. Sorry I couldn't get to them all this week.